Anybody up for a good cry?
Not the most common question you’ve heard asked but a healthy one, no doubt.
When we feel the need to cry, it is the body’s way of telling us that it’s time to relieve ourselves. Crying produces tears which are a natural avenue for our body to relieve itself of stress and toxins. Tears are bodily secretions that actually reduce the level of certain stress hormones by releasing proteins that have built up in the body while enduring stress. When we feel the need to cry, our tears are yelling to us, “Let me out!” When our bodies speak to us, we best listen as it is God’s built-in way of helping us care for ourselves.
Just as we detoxify physically from environmental and food-based poisons that build up in our bodies, we also must allow ourselves to detoxify emotionally. For emotional detoxification has rewarding physical results acting as an agent to maintain healthy balance. That’s why you can feel as if you have lost weight after a good cry; you have lost emotional weight.
“Big girls don’t cry” and “Boys aren’t supposed to cry” are expressions we have heard for years. The problem is that they are shaming statements. Shaming statements originate from shame-based individuals. And unfortunately, shame-base individuals shame others. Shame is always destructive, and as a result not helpful at all. These expressions are not helpful because they are the equivalent of saying, (excuse the graphics) “Big girls should not urinate” or “Big boys should not sweat.” Really.
Tears, sweat, urine and mucous are bodily secretions that are meant to be secreted. So, instead of allowing shame to persuade us to hold our pressing tears back, let’s be brave and learn to welcome them as a perfectly natural process of releasing emotional stress. When we learn to welcome them, we can enjoy looking forward to the relief we will experience after they have run their course.
Psalm 126:5 They who sow in tears shall reap in joy and singing.